“Your Tips Helped Me Find Hope I Will Meet Someone”

“I have just started to listen to your “47 Secrets” CD’s. Not even through the first one and have already gotten GREAT tips and insights!

After listening to the first CD, I had the dawning realization that the guy I was hanging my hopes on is never going to want to commit. Your tips are helping me find hope that I will indeed meet someone who will want to be with me and that I will be attracted to. So my practice is to work on loving myself and filling my own tank – maybe I’ll find my self so happy I won’t care anymore if I ever meet anyone!

As I listen to your tips, I am noticing a shift and I can feel a big win just around the corner. Can hardly wait to be your next, great success story! I’ve already started telling people about your work and am looking forward to your book getting out there when it is done. Your work has given me (and all women!) the tools on how to be women and men to be men. Thanks Kim! “
                                                              

~ Pat 

Can’t figure out why you’re not getting the guy?

It’s an ongoing mystery many women have a challenge unraveling. Many things can impact your results, but I’ve narrowed it down to ONE. And, once you grasp this, it will have a positive impact in your current dating life. I promise, you’ll never look back.

So, the difference between YOU and women who get the guy is:

You have stopped yourself in a place they haven’t.

Now, before you have a big reaction and start telling me “But Kim, you don’t understand” just hear me out on this. It really is this simple (as all genius observations tend to be!)

Those women have learned how to push through their fears. Whatever stopped you internally or externally has simply not stopped them. When you really get this, it can make such a difference with how fast you move forward and approach your soul mate attraction goals.

So let’s look at how this happens…

Lets say your goal is: “I’m going to make this the year I meet my man”. That may mean attending a singles event or being open to meeting new men. Now, maybe in the past you’ve attended singles events and you didn’t have a good time or perhaps you’ve had a string of “bad dates” the last few months. So you decide you want to avoid all that happening again and STOP right there.

Often, you may not even be conscious that’s why you’re stopping. You’ll come up with a lot of creative excuses like: “men only want younger women” or “I don’t like the bar scene” or “all the good men are taken”.

You need to be honest with yourself if you’re making these types of excuses. The instant you do AND the instant you face the reality that you’re scared of…

• Being humiliated,

• Rejected

• Getting hurt again

…you’ll be free forever!

You’ve got to let the past be the past, and not use it as an excuse to take yourself out of the dating dance. Hiding out to avoid being hurt is the equivalent of a business shutting it’s doors because a few customers decided not to buy – doesn’t make much sense, right?

So this week, I want you to identify where you’re stopping yourself. It’s not procrastination. There’s a very good chance there’s something deeper you’re avoiding. It’s getting in the way and it’s holding you back.

All you need to do is remember that the only difference between you and the women who “got the guy” is that they don’t stop at that place. You need to find a way to keep going.

This is about being honest with yourself about why you’re stopping and remember that you can’t stop there! The truth is, everything you want but don’t have lies outside of your comfort zone. If it was in your comfort zone, you’d already have it! 

To get what you want, if you want a different set of results, you need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Please know, I’m speaking from experience. I had to do this time and time again in my love life and every area of my life.

Action Steps:

1. Take some time out and think about the real reason(s) you’re feeling blocked and not inspired to move forward in your love life. What are the hidden culprits getting the way? Past hurt, rejection etc..?

2. Then, write out what an empowered, openhearted woman would do right now. What decisions would she make and what positive beliefs would this woman activate to open up her channels to love?

3. Now, be THAT woman. Follow the inner guidance you received and start taking action right now. What new beliefs, decisions and actions can you create today to shift your inner blocks and get you back on track?

I know ONE thing that will get you on track again – Signing up for my FREE call “Get Inside a Man’s Mind” happening on May 29. This is where I’ll give you the straight talk on what men really think, feel and want from you – amazing confidence builder! Sign up HERE today.

“Kim Helped Me With So Many Blocks in Business”

“If you are up for an amazing weekend full of feminine power, looking to attract your king/soulmate, or learn how to get men/partner to do anything you want with ease! You gotta take Kim’s course! I totally recommend it to every woman whether you have a man or need a man! KIM has the MAN-U-AL! 

I am so grateful that I got to experience her as a Mentor, Business Coach, Relationship Coach, and her wonderful Feminine Power Workshop, plus her Fall in Love with Money Workshop. I have a wonderful time with her and her advice helped me improve in so many areas! Kim’s straight to the point facts can be implement in everything – relationships, business, health or life in general. Those who saw me after the Feminine Power Weekend saw the difference… I was completely on a natural high, glowing with appreciation and aspiration! 

Kim is very insightful and has a wonderful vibrant personality. Every time we speak it’s such an great time, she helped me through many blocks in my business and personal things. I am grateful to have her as my Mentor! She is wholeheartedly honest, so her facts are straight to the nitty gritty, which I absolutely love about her!

~Wai-Yung Vuong 

One of the topics I cover in depth in my workshops is the vast differences between men and women. I’m always amazed at the shock and disbelief my female students express when they realize how much simpler men are compared to women.

Men really are one trick ponies in a sense, operating on one or two tracks at any given time. This is quite different compared to women who are buzzzzzzing on 16 different tracks, emotions and buttons all at the same time.

This creates a wee bit of a challenge for men when they’re attempting to listen and communicate with you. You may not realize this, but most of the time you’re floating outside of your body while you spin more than one topic of conversation in the air at the same time. Men can’t keep up – no wonder you may not feel “heard”, right?

When you’re out of your body and talking a mile a minute, it can be frightening to a man. Men don’t know what to do when a cacophony of words come flying out of a woman’s mouth. Often, they just want to run or just glaze over from information overload.

We women have a zillion things going on in our head about everything under the sun and can’t believe that men don’t have more on their mind than we do. You may find you’re always asking what a man is thinking because you assume there’s as much going on between his ears as you.

Not true!

Honestly, men aren’t thinking about much at any given time. They’re thinking about their next big deal at work, the football game, their car etc… NOT things like: “I wonder if she’s being quiet because she’s mad at me for that thing I did 20 years ago?”

As a woman, you have a large capacity and thrive on this random continual buzz.  Men are the opposite. He thrives when everything is calm and steady state. If you’ve ever spent more than a few days alone in the company of a man you may have noticed on day three or four, things start to go downhill.

Why? If you experience too much “steady state”, your battery gets depleted and – to create some “excitement” – you’ll stir things up.

For example: Have you ever been on a vacation with a past or current partner only to find you’re in worse shape by the time it’s over? This one track at a time stuff can get pretty dull for you and – in an attempt to relieve the boredom – you must create some excitement (often in the form of an argument) as a way to feel the “buzz” again.

The next time you feel a storm brewing or boredom creeping up with a man, follow my tips below to help you get back on track.

1. Take a DEEP BREATH. This will bring you back into your body
2. Ask yourself what you need. It might be a simple hug or, maybe you just want him to listen.
3. Once you know what you need, tell him. This way, he can figure out how to fix it and avoid a big blow up.

**OPTIONAL**Another way to re-charge your ”battery”, is to simply have a conversation with another woman. When women communicate with each other, it releases hormones like dopamine and other “bonding” types of chemicals. Connecting with another woman, even if it’s on the phone, is an immediate stress reliever. This will help you release a lot of the steam, often your upset will completely disappear when you’re done!

I’ll be going into much more detail about how to communicate with men during my “Feminine Power Workshop” on May 26/27.  You’ll be amazed at how truly easy it is to always feel heard by a man and to effortlessly train him to be in tune to your needs –  whether you’re on a first date or in a 20 year marriage! Grab one of the **few spots** left TODAY

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With tax time just around the corner, I know that money is on the minds of many right now. And, there’s most likely a host of limiting beliefs and patterns about your Money Story that might be kicking up for you right now.

If you’ve been listening to my recent tele-classes lately, I’m continually sharing how limiting beliefs about money are actually not about the money at all – in fact it’s never about the money, it’s more about what money represents – the power we give it and fears it can bring up.

One of the major fears that block the flow of what we want (money, a soulmate etc…) is a fear of being in our personal power.

Many people hold an unhealthy and false illusion about what personal power is. For example, if you define power as:

“I might hurt people with this”

“I don’t want to stand out”

“Others will be jealous of me”

If this is what you’re telling yourself about what having personal power is, then your going to run from it as fast as you can, right?

One of the ways we avoid being in our power is by living outside of our body. We don’t know how to manage our energy and don’t realize when you’re giving your power away, exerting too much power or when to call more power in when you need it.

One of the first things I do when I’m starting a session with clients who have a lot of issues kicking up is have them stop, breathe and bring their focus and attention to our session –I already know and can feel their out of their body.

Your personal power is really about embracing your light – your creative, lovely, feminine, life force energy that wants to come through. But, if you’ve made up a false story about what power means, you end up continually downplaying your greatness or suppressing it.

Marianne Williamson expressed this well in her (now famous) quote:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”

We’re so afraid of standing out, you end up bringing yourself down to everyone else’s level. I call it dimming your light. When I’m coaching clients, the whole focus is about turning their “light switch” back on so they shine like a bright beacon for men and all the world to see.

Your light is your vital Feminine LIFE FORCE – and it’s huge! It takes a tremendous amount of energy to suppress this powerful Life Force that’s so much bigger then you. Talk about exhausting.

I coach many women who are burnt out in their life. They’ve spent a lifetime giving their power away to men and living every day dimming their light, suppressing their beautiful Life Force – this thing they’re afraid of, don’t know how to embrace or even understand.

When you have a fear of your personal power, it blocks your ability to attract money and a man. Why? You can only let in the amount of money and love your willing to utilize to express more of your power.

The more love and money you have, the more inner and outer power you have.The more of both you have, the more influence you have and ability to live the way you want.

If you’re afraid your power will hurt people, make others jealous or make you stand out too much, you’ll unconsciously act out behaviours and make decisions about your life that will keep your power suppressed.

So, the more you suppress your power, the less money and love can come in because the Universe will only supply you with what you demonstrate you need and intend to use up.

One way you may be “acting out” is keeping strong beliefs activated that there is a scarcity of men or a scarcity of money – all your focus is there – and what you focus on expands.

Simply shifting your focus to an abundant mindset and envisioning an infinite supply of whatever your heart desires, and then taking action will accelerate it coming toward you. 

I make it a regular practice to set BIG goals, envision things beyond my wildest imagination – my bank account or what’s happening in my current life situation is never a part of the equation. If I did, nothing would ever get off the ground and it would be challenging to move forward.

So when you learn how to celebrate your greatness and truly own it, your love life becomes a joy vs. a pain and money becomes a friend rather then a fear or responsibility.

Below is a great exercise to help you begin the process of shifting through  getting your power back in all the areas of your life you need to:

1) Where ARE you comfortable with your power?

Think of a time or all the places you already feel powerful and write them down. It could be your job, a presentation you did, a friendship – whatever it is for you.

2) Where are you NOT in your power?

This could also be in a relationship or your job/ business/ pets/children/ money/ yourself – write it down.

3) Then, ask yourself “What would a strong, attractive, brilliant woman do in this situation?”

When you ask yourself this question, you’ll notice you make VERY different decisions and often will find quick solutions to help you embrace your personal power right away in each situation.

This is only a small fraction of the wealth of tips, exercises and healing activations, I’ve been sharing all week during my “Fall in Love With Money”. Sign up and immediately shift where you’re blocked with your personal power with money and beyond. Grab your seat TODAY and receive all the recordings and bonuses right away HERE

Technology is here to stay. I get it. It has vastly improved innumerable aspects of our lives and I’m grateful. However, the one area it can get in the way is in your love life.

A few years ago I was on a (really good!) date with a man.  The date was so fun and the guy was a real king. Great conversation, chivalrous, complimentary – the whole deal. As I reflected on the date the next day, I realized every time he took a bathroom break – he was gone for a long time.

Then it dawned on me. This guy wasn’t fussing getting his hair perfect; he was on his phone checking messages – ugh!

I admit, I’m on my computer for long periods of time. My entire business revolves around it being that way. However, I intentionally have not purchased a laptop, cell phone or any other gadgets that would require me to be connected to technology outside my home.  

In fact, I relish events and business trips I have to travel for so I can take a break from technology. I love having this “tech free” time to ponder and allow creative thoughts and ideas to flow. And, BE present to my surroundings.

So, when I’m on a date with a man who treats his cell phone like another limb on his body while we’re together, it’s pretty frustrating. And I know it’s this way for you too.

Why is this such a grrr moment for every woman?

Checking emails while in the energy of a date – even if he’s in the bathroom doing this – is the equivalent of plopping his computer on the table between your wine glass and the breadbasket. He’s essentially “left” the date.

It leaves you like a “sitting duck”, open for any danger to come your way unprotected. How important would those emails be if armed gunmen come in and robbed you? You can bet your bippy that he would feel like a complete shmuck if that happened.

On my date, we happened to be at a restaurant where there was a nightclub attached.  When he was off checking messages, other men were coming up to chat with me. If I want to spend a night fending off pesky guys I have no interest in, I can do that anytime with my gal pals – not what I want to be dealing with while I’m already on a date!

Second, it reveals addictive behavior. If he can’t wait a couple of hours to get his email “fix” – where else is that showing up in his life?  If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone addicted to drugs/ alcohol/ gambling, you know how the addiction becomes almost like a mistress.  Everything in an addict’s life becomes secondary (including you).

Plus, if he’s this distracted on a first date – you’re already envisioning how much worse it will get once you’re in a relationship.

Third, when a guy is focused on his technology rather then you, it just flat out hurts. Your sitting there wondering what email can be so earth shatteringly more important then sitting with an attractive, fun woman like yourself?

It’s never a good idea for a man to take his attention off of a woman. It’s too risky because we require so much of it.  You can sense when a man’s attention is directed somewhere else – potentially kicking up a host of insecurities for you. Who is he texting/ talking to? Is he a player?

So how can you get his attention OFF his cell phone and back on YOU?

Every man – including awesome, aware men – can unintentionally offend us through words or actions. Men need to know when their doing something that makes you unhappy. They can’t read your mind – and often – can only slightly see by your face you’re not pleased about something.

And, it’s awkward trying to figure out how to graciously let a man know his tech habits bother you, yes?

So, the best course of action is to be straight, clear and overt by sharing how it feels when he does this. Read below for a great way to get the conversation started and steer his attention away from his phone – and back on YOU.

Sample Conversation

Guy: “Hey, is everything all right?”

You: “Well, everything has been great so far tonight and I really appreciate you making such a wonderful choice with the restaurant. The only thing is, every time you go to the washroom, you seem to be taking a long time and I get the sense you’re on your phone either checking messages or talking to someone else. I just want you to know If we’re going to continue on to a second date – it’s not cool with me you do that.

Guy: “Ummm, ok.”

You: “I know my sharing this is creating a bit of awkwardness. But, I’m sure you would prefer I tell my truth, rather then not saying anything, right?”

Guy: “Absolutely!”

You: “Awesome. Your not a wrong guy that you do that, it’s just I’m the kind of woman who appreciates a man who knows how to keep his attention on me. You’ve already demonstrated you do that really well in every way tonight.  Even though your not on the phone in front of me, I can feel your attention elsewhere. Thanks for hearing me out and giving me the space to be honest – I appreciate you for doing that.”

Guy: “Ok, thanks for being honest. Wanna go dancing?!”

You can see you’re not making him wrong or coming from a place of anger. In fact, you’ll notice how to always start with giving him some form of appreciation. This way, he energetically stays open – making it easier to hear what your truth is.

This is actually part of a method I teach women to communicate with men when they need to bring up potentially awkward subjects. I’ll be breaking this all down and revealing many more tips like this during my 2 day live “Feminine Power Workshop” where I’ll walk you through my proprietary, step by step plan to attract and KEEP a man! Join the ranks of 2,600 other women who have already graduated and are now experiencing successful love lives! Find out more HERE 

We all dream of having our ideal home, ideal man and unlimited funds in our bank account, and then can’t figure out why it’s not manifesting. What you might be surprised to know what’s really keeping you stuck is a fear of having it all.

We have such a fear of having it all, that we’ll often create situations to ensure there’s at least ONE area of our life that doesn’t work. Love life, money – we’ll unconsciously create scarcity in one or more areas to prevent us from fully having everything we want.

I coach lots of successful women who have everything – except their ideal man. I also know women who have an ideal man, but are always struggling with money. Their unconsciously keeping ONE area not working – like a “go to” default that keeps them from fully moving forward in their life.

I know it sounds crazy, but if you really check in with yourself, you can easily see one or two areas where this shows up in your own life.

I was just supporting a business client recently with this very issue. She’s starting a business for the first time. She’s excited, motivated and a naturally disciplined woman.  Suddenly – out of the blue – she noticed she was procrastinating, stalling, making excuses and not getting the things done she knows she needs to do to move her new business forward.

As we worked together, she realized she could FEEL how easy it was going to be to create success and it will manifest fairly quickly. And, this was freaking her out. She’ll be able to finally “have it all” – working less, making more money then she ever did in her corporate job – and experiencing an ease and freedom in her life she’s wanted for years. So, she went to “default” behaviour to slow that possibility down – as fast as she could!

This also shows up a lot when new clients want to work with me. They’ve spent years struggling and in deep pain with men, money or their business. Their over-the-moon to finally release the pain and come through my one of my programs – then use money as an excuse to not move themselves forward.  When, in fact, it’s not about the money at all – it’s about their fear of having it all.

If they release their “default” – the ONE area that never works – then they might end up having everything they want. I never have any judgment about it; it’s just always interesting to observe how easily people put up barriers to avoid stepping into their magnificence.  

If you think about it, fear of having it all is actually a form of scarcity. If you’re afraid of having it all, the polar opposite to that is LOSING it all. So many times women confide they’re afraid to get into a relationship because they’ll “lose” him (or themselves) in the relationship. So they never get their love life off the ground.

The same thing shows up when I coach women with healing their money stories. They have an unconscious fear if they make more money, they’ll lose it all. They’ll get used to living a certain lifestyle and suddenly go bankrupt or some other drop of income will occur.  

If you’re afraid of LOSING it all (whatever it might be) it’s a big clue you have a belief running “there’s not enough. Scarcity or “lack” energy is the most common story clients have activated when it comes to love and money – there’s not enough men available or not enough money to have what I want.

So, how can you release scarcity thinking and powerfully activate Having it All?

Obviously, a strong, lifetime pattern like this isn’t a quick fix and can’t happen overnight. However, here are some guidelines to get you started:

1) Where is an area of my life I tend to “default” to when everything else is going well? Maybe everything’s going well with your business, and then your love life tanks. Or, maybe you finally paid off all your bills, then your pet gets sick. Check in and see the ONE thing that always pops up.

2) “Am I WILLING to give myself permission to have it all?” Check in first and see if you’re truly willing to release your pattern of going to your default. Be honest and resist judging yourself – it’s ok if you’re not ready yet. If you are ready, go to Step 3.

3) What next action step can I take? You can’t just wish or think a limiting pattern away – you must take action so you can shift the energy and also show the Universe you mean business. What’s a big or small step you can take that will get you moving in the direction you want to go.

If you’re not sure where to take your first action step, one good place to start – that won’t hurt your purse strings! – is signing up for my  “Fall in Love With Money” 4- part virtual teleseries where I’m going to lovingly guide you through your biggest blocks and help you permanently heal your money stories. Find out more and SAVE here