The other day I was speaking with a past client “Mandy” and she confided she still had not met her soulmate. Mandy shared she was beginning to believe love just wasn’t in the cards for her in this lifetime. This took me aback because I already knew how much she wanted a partner through the many conversations we had in her sessions.
What I pointed out to Mandy, and want to share with you, is how much resignation and giving up hope impacts your reality – leading you to believe your soulmate does not exist. What you focus on expands.
Now that we’re half way through 2012 – if you haven’t met your soulmate yet – you might find yourself starting to experience concern and self-doubt. Like a bad mattress that sags in the middle, the mid-point of a year is the time when faith and hope can easily start to go out the window.
Might as well give up and call it a day, right?
Well, before you go down that road, let me be very clear about something:
The Universe would not create your desire for a partner unless he existed.
I really want you to take that in. There’s a natural order to everything in existence. Day flows into night. Every problem has a solution. Every car has a parking spot (most days). Your desire to have a soulmate is actually proof that he DOES exist. The Universe would not be so unkind to plant the seed within you – without the SOULution to go with it.
However, the process of him finding you slows down when you stop living in your heart – and allow your head ( limiting beliefs) to form you’re reality. Any thought that doesn’t come from love is not real.
So, how can YOU get out of your own way and speed up the process? Follow these three tips:
- Focus on your goal and align your thoughts accordingly. For example, do you say that you WANT a relationship, but BELIEVE that you’re not attractive enough? It’s time to stop listening to the ‘inner critic’ and start focusing on what you DO like about yourself. A great exercise is to ask a friend what they like about you!
- Make a list of all the qualities of your Ideal Mate. Put pen to paper and get really clear about what you want, value and need to have to make them ideal for you. People don’t think twice about putting time, effort and research into shopping for a car or home and the same care and attention applies when your ‘shopping’ for a mate.
- Check in with yourself and see if you have done the necessary healing from your past relationships. Look for recurring negative patterns, attracting drama, etc.. Hire a coach or counselor, attend a personal growth workshop. You need something BIGGER than you to step in and guide you.
Now that you’re out of your own head, let me help you “Get Inside a Man’s Mind” during me FREE call happening on May 29. This is where I’ll give you the straight talk on what men really think, feel and want from you – lots of great tips you don’t want to miss! Sign up HERE today.
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